AJ McLean and his spouse, Rochelle, are engaged on their relationship. Practically eight months after the couple introduced that they’d “mutually decided to separate temporarily to work on ourselves, and on our marriage with the hope of building a stronger future,” the 45-year-old Backstreet Boys singer revealed the place he and his spouse stand right now.
“We still live separately, but we are in couples therapy. We are in individual therapy. We talk every day. We are spending more time together,” AJ, who married Rochelle in 2011, mentioned on the Intercourse, Lies, and Spray Tans podcast. “We just have to rebuild something that was never there from the beginning.”
AJ continued by explaining how one in all his associates made sense of the separation, revealing the pal mentioned, “You guys were ball gagged, handcuffed, ankle cuffed, thrown in the water and said, ‘Be in a relationship.'”
“It’s impossible,” AJ admitted. “I came with baggage, she came with baggage. She had trauma, I had trauma. I wasn’t sober or even ready to get sober, she was dealing with her own s**t.”
“It was just a constant push-pull,” he continued. “She would sweep her feelings under the rug, I would do the same thing or I’d dive into a bottle. Now, it’s taken this time apart for us to really do some serious growing and understanding and listening.”
Whereas on that journey, AJ, who shares Ava, 10, and Lyric, 6, with Rochelle, mentioned he is realized to reside by the phrase “luver,” which stands for pay attention, perceive, be weak, have empathy, and reiterate.
“If you and I are having a conversation and you’re telling me your feelings, I’m validating your feelings, I’m hearing your feelings and I have empathy, because normally I would twist it and make it about me. Not anymore,” he mentioned. “Luver is a great way to communicate not only with your partner, but just people in general. Have empathy, listen to them, validate their feelings because they are their feelings. It doesn’t matter if you agree with it, but it’s their feelings. They own that.”
AJ famous, “By us kind of approaching things now that way, it’s been much, much healthier.”
Again in March, in a press release to ET, AJ’s rep mentioned, “Marriage is hard, but worth it. We have mutually decided to separate temporarily to work on ourselves, and on our marriage with the hope of building a stronger future. The plan is to come back together and continue to nurture our love for one another, and our family. We ask for respect and privacy at this time. Separation is hard enough without the commentary, please be kind and remember there are children involved.”
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